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April 2005
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What the media is saying

Coaching comes to Sit-coms
"Cheers" alum George Wendt has been cast in the WB's untitled Ross McCall-Aaron Peters comedy pilot, which revolves around three childhood male friends in their 20s who seek the advice of a female life coach. Wendt, who received six Emmy nominations for playing Norm on NBC's "Cheers," recently wrapped the indie "Edmond," based on David Mamet's play.
today.reuters.com



Life coaching gains in popularity
By Parna Sarkar-Basu / Daily News Staff
Feeling overwhelmed and disorganized, real estate broker Maryann Watson and fitness expert Scott Thompson turned to a life coach for help. The coach, they said, not only helped bring work-life balance to their lives, but also supported their career goals. Both agreed that working with a coach have made them more efficient and their respective business is prospering. Full story

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Ice-Breakers

Ice breaking activities, when messed up, can have disastrous consequences. So if you do not want to endanger your health and sanity or that of your group, take a quick look at the reasons why big time bloopers happen while using ice breaking activities.

Ice Breaker Blooper 1: It's all in the props!
You will find ice breaking activities from resources worldwide. However, remember that you are really looking for something geographically relevant. Choose activities, which require props that are easily available. Stay away from anything that sounds remotely unavailable. That's if you DO NOT want to go on an inter-continental shopping spree every time you need to use an ice breaker.

Ice Breaker Blooper 2: 'Where was I?'
An ice breaker which proves to be a hit might invite some enthused 'once more' type suggestions but if there's something at the back of your mind that you had lined up for 'after the ice breaker,' we suggest you stop when you have to and get down to business.

Ice Breaker Blooper 3: 'What do you think you are doing Mister?'
Choose ice breaking activities that go with the mental and physical age of your group. Do not ask just everyone to mimic animal sounds or do a bunny hop. It might even be a good idea to suggest an ice breaker to a few members of the group as a trial run before pulling out all stops with the entire group.

Ice Breaker Blooper 4: Coordinator or Clown?
While most ice breaking activities have an under current of fun running through them, you should take care that the group doesn't start seeing you as the person who provides the laughs. Don't play entertainer or stand up comedy show host. Maintain decorum and don't let the fun element of the ice breaker ruin your image.
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Index of Items
Editor's Comment:
The ECI Up-date

Membership of the ECI is steadily growing and the number of Coaches requesting a spot on the International Coach Register increases month on month.

David Leeper, Intl. Head of Consulting has been contacted by a number of companies with regard to the Coaching Awards and the ECI is also registering an increase in Corporate (Multiple Coaches) membership.

In a society that is becoming more litigious every day, Accreditation is rapidly being recognised as the way forward for coaching. The ECI is working towards standardisation and recognition for Coaches now, before we have to react to the "knee-jerk" reaction from Brussels once somebody gets hurt. Please encourage others to support the ECI by joining, also, forward this newsletter to anyone that you think may be interested. We thank you for your continued support - Ed.


Professional Indemnity Insurance for the International Coaching profession

The ECI as part of it's continued and ongoing commitment support to all of it's coaches, working closely with Westminster Indemnity, can now provide our members with discounted insurance rates. This Professional Indemnity Insurance Policy is an all encompassing indemnity and liability insurance scheme for life coaches, executive coaches, corporate coaches, coach trainers and trainers. In addition for the first time ever this policy also covers coaches and trainers in the UK and in Ireland. Over a period of time additional European Countries will be included in this policy.

Details of this insurance policy for Subscribers to The ECI can be found by
clicking here. For Members, please logon to the members area and select the 'Discounted Insurance' button. This will provide full details of the discounted insurance offering.
For volunteers to the ECI, please contact operations@the-eci.org.


The European Award for Coaching Excellence

The ECI runs the first award scheme created to reward and recognise Companies who have implemented a coaching culture.

The awards are open to all Companies across Europe who have made a difference in their employee's working environment, 'People Relations' or have actively improved people's lives.

The ECI have been developing this programme with some of Europe's largest 'players' and now seeks four more Companies to pilot the scheme.

Gerard O' Donovan, CEO of The ECI says "After 12 months of hard work and unstinting research, we are ready to form 4 more strategic alliances with Companies that want to work with us to implement this scheme. We are looking for a 3 month commitment from these Partners during which we will finalise the recognition of their Coaching Culture."

All of those interested in the Awards scheme should contact Martin Mitchell, Head of Marketing, PR and Sales marketing@the-eci.org


International Coach Register

The ECI is in correspondence with Government Departments, both in the UK and Brussels, and as a result an International Register of Coaches has been created which will list EVERY Coach that applies, no matter their affiliation or training.

Even though the ECI are taking on this onerous task on behalf of the Industry, all Coaches will be welcome to apply whether they have trained with an accredited company or have membership of Federations, Associations and Institutes or not. All Coaches can be listed without prohibitive rulings and without prejudice.

Gerard O'Donovan, CEO of The ECI, says: "This is the chance for EVERY Coach to come forward and say 'Here I am, this is me, this is what I do.' This is the chance for all Coaches to be transparent and make the whole process easier for Clients. The Register is not just about the ECI - this is about improving access to Coaching for all by all."

When someone uses the Register to find a Coach it will list all of the Coaches that meet each individual's requirements and show some basic information that will help them to decide which Coaches to approach. It is always best for people to contact their prospective Coach and interact, this way they can decide whether this is the person for them and they can ascertain that this is the right Coach that will challenge them to get results.

Gerard goes on to say: "We would like to see everyone that calls themselves a Coach listed on this Register so that we can make the whole process easier for everyone to use. Ease of use is the primary goal for the Register and I am delighted that there is now a way for everybody looking for a Coach to see exactly what they can get!"

To apply for listing on the Register of Coaches and for further information about The European Coaching Institute or any of the subjects raised in this release please contact Martin Mitchell, International Head of Marketing, PR & Sales - marketing@the-eci.org


Workshops

The ECI's fantastic programme of workshops for 2005 has been designed to help you build and grow your practice. Workshops will be at various venues and speakers will be published on the web-site shortly www.europeancoachinginstitute.org/resources:
  • 12th April 2005 London - Optimise your Website
  • Benefits of Accreditation
  • Turn maybe into paying clients
  • Personal Dynamics
  • Visioning
  • Giving & Attracting Referrals
  • 2 Niche or not 2 Niche
  • Legal Admin. Requirements
  • December 2005 - ECI Festive Celebrations!

    Further details for our workshop programme can be found on our calendar.

Accredited Training Courses and Workshops

  • CTECI - Full Coach Training Programme
  • SCECI - Short Courses
    • Quantum Goal Achievement
      Noble Manhattan Coaching
      info@noble-manhattan.com
      .
    • The Body Transformation Programme
      Scintilla
      .
    • Coaching Human Potential and Peak Performance
      Scintilla
      .
    • Coaching Futures! Innovation and Strategic Creativity
      Scintilla
  • WSECI - Workshops

Further details can be found on www.europeancoachinginstitute.org/coach_training/.

Top Tips
TV Opportunity
Hands up if you suffer from a lack of self-confidence.

So what can you do about it? Quite a lot - If you aren't happy with your life at the moment, don't worry, because you have the power to change it. It might not feel like it right now, but even small changes can make a very big difference. If you don't think you can manage all of these confidence-boosting ideas straight away, just choose one and, when you've got the hang of it, do another one. In fact, you could even set yourself a two-week change programme and take one of the options each day.

Reset your system
If something is bothering you, whether it's a person, an incident, or something you did or didn't do, acknowledge it, learn from it and then delete it. It's taking up valuable mind space and undermining your self-esteem.

Start the day right
Mornings seem to be a bad time for most people, and if you start off sluggishly, this negative mood can hang around until lunchtime. Put yourself in a positive frame of mind before you even get out of bed by asking yourself these questions before you go to sleep. Make sure you phrase those questions positively - don't ask yourself 'why am I such a failure?' before you close your eyes. Ask 'how can I be more successful/confident/happy?'

Cultivate your social life
The less you interact with other people, the more negative you'll feel about yourself and the less likely you'll be to put yourself in social situations. Break the negative circle by starting to include other people in your life. If this seems difficult, think of it as giving as well as taking. Join a voluntary organisation or club and offer to help.

Get some exercise
Include more exercise in your life. Working out, particularly outdoors, is a great way to generate your own 'feel-good' chemicals and will give you body confidence as well as energise you.

Relax
Learning to breathe like a relaxed and confident person will help you cope with daily stresses, and it's the simplest habit you could ever learn. There are lots of books and classes about this and, if you like the idea, you could take up meditation or yoga and become a master of poise and positive energy.

Make your own choices
Take time out to assess a) your career and b) your relationships. If it's not working for you, whatever it is, change it.

Review your situation
Include time for reflection in your daily schedule - praying if you're religions, meditating or writing a diary of your thoughts and feelings.

Change your environment
Chances are, your environment reflects the way you feel, but, whether it's dull, cluttered or messy, you can change it. Clear up the clutter and throw out stuff you don't use

Give yourself the VIP treatment
Start treating yourself the way you'd treat your best friend. If you aren't sure you can keep this up for long, take it a day at a time. Give yourself encouragement and support. Take yourself out for a hairdo, a massage, an aromatherapy session - or even a clothes-shopping trip.

Find a role model
If you're having difficulty taking this new version of yourself seriously, why not pretend to be someone else? Think of someone you admire - it could be someone you know, or someone famous - and live your day as they would. How would they react to others? Would they be assertive? Relaxed? Confident? Fun and energetic?

martin@activ8life.com www.activ8life.com
© 2005 All rights reserved
Your Questions Answered

Question
I run a Coaching Practice and work exclusively via phone, fax, and computer from my home. I worry that I'm losing business by skipping face-to-face meetings. If so, what kinds of meetings should I be having - purely social contacts or more structured business lunches?

Answer
Advances made in technology, particularly over the past decade, have no doubt revolutionised much of the way we do business. As someone who has founded and built a successful home-based business, you have certainly reaped many benefits from that revolution. It's now so easy to handle most tasks from behind a computer that it almost seems as if there's no point wasting energy on "face time."

However, business at it's heart is all about relationships, and there's still no substitute for face-to-face contact when it comes to building those ties. Not only are you missing out on potential revenue by staying at home, you're also robbing yourself of continuing education, moral support, industry intelligence, personal fulfilment, and the serendipitous business opportunities that only arise when you take a few moments to meet someone new.

As with many people-centric businesses, getting out to meet with your potential clients is important for your Coaching Practice. This can be a combination of formal meetings and social events, all will increase your relationship with and knowledge of prospective employers. I have found that knowing about my client's facilities, as well as their culture, reputation, and mission, are important for making the best matches with events.

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A Day in the life of an ECI Volunteer

6.00am
- The alarm rang some time ago and gave me time to get up leisurely and space to meditate, allowing me to come to my desk and start printing ECI accreditation certificates for 2005 in the peace and quiet of the house.

7.00am - family time! Time to catch up on where we both are and what we are doing today - work wise and socially.

8.00am - I start to download emails - on an average day I'll download around 50 emails for The ECI. On my ECI allocated day, I allocate this time to review them all and spend time reading in depth and responding to those that are urgent. Remaining emails will be scheduled for later in the day or later in the week, especially if they need time to research the details and respond to.

9.00am - Unexpectedly a phone call from Norway in relation to an article requiring input from The ECI. A coach in Norway has been requested to write an article for a USA publication.

9.30am - Spent some time reviewing my action list for today.

10.00am - discussion with IT suppliers, and started the website design of the new volunteers webpage.

11.00am - discussion with a coaching colleague in relation to coaching skills and CPD (continuous professional development). We discussed the outline of the CPD log found in the members section of The ECI website.

12.00noon - time for a break.

1.45pm - preparation for my coaching call.

2.00pm - the phone rings. This call is from a client who started their business over a year ago and is now expanding. The coaching topic today is relating to what role does the owner play in the business - do they remain as the owner and as such the manager, or are they someone who is still doing the job who needs to consider employing a manager? What responsibilities will remain with them? and what would they hand over to the newly appointed manager?

3.00pm - continued with the design of the volunteers web-page and started pulling together the concept of new opportunities for The ECI members.

6.00pm - preparation for tomorrow.

Barbara J. Dalpra MNMC, FECI
Deputy CEO (Operations, IT, Finance)
www.nyasa.co.uk   barbara.dalpra@nyasa.co.uk
© 2005 All rights reserved The Nyasa Partnership Limited
On a Mission?

Every Monday morning, before his working week begins, Mark Holland, 40, gets out a neatly printed and laminated card and reads: "Wendi is the most important person in my life. My family comes before work and other activities. I live my religion. I provide the financial security for my family. Our home is a retreat from the challenges of the world. I have a positive attitude, looking for and developing the strength in others. I help people develop and grow, including, when appropriate, holding them accountable. The outdoors provide a needed sanctuary and retreat for me."

That is Holland's personal mission statement, which he drafted in 1998, following a crisis in his business, $11 million Ascend HR Solutions, which provides off-site human resources services. That year the company experienced an $800,000 loss, which sparked a bitter partnership battle and was so stressful that the six-foot Holland lost nearly 20 pounds. The CEO wrote his mission statement, which was inspired by a Stephen Covey seminar, out of a determination never to sacrifice his family and his health for work again. "The Covey training gave me a good smack upside the head," says Holland.

Over the past two years, the statement has grown into a life plan for Holland and his wife, Wendi. So far the "plan" consists of a 30-year itinerary on Lotus spreadsheets that covers the couple's finances (including retirement and college savings), vacations (planned a year and a half in advance), exercise regimens (four times a week on the stationarybike for Mark), spiritual activities, work goals, personal relationships (including Mark's reconciliation with a sibling),and personal growth. "We asked, 'What are the important things? What do we want to have happen before we die?" says Holland.

The two review the plan thoroughly at least once a month and discuss their progress in specific areas on long walks that they take twice a week in a nearby park, their two-year-old daughter on Mark's shoulders and their five-month-old son in Wendi's Baby Bjorn front pack. "The plan is dynamic -- it changes," says Holland. "It's been really good for getting our relationship and our lives back to where they needed to be."

Thea Singer
www.inc.com/incmagazine
© 2005 Thea Singer
Book Review

Title: Lend Me Your Ears

Author: Professor Max Atkinson

Publisher:
Ebury Press Vermilion
ISBN: 0091894794
Price: £9.99
Reviewer: Anne Teggart
    


This book was written by the same man who trained former Liberal Democrat Leader, Paddy Ashdown, in the art of public speaking. How do I know? Well, he mentions it at the front of his book. He has also included favourable references to himself from Michael Sheehan, a former speech coach to Bill Clinton. So, if he is looked to by someone so close to the most powerful person in the world, then surely what he says must be true. right?

At first glance this book looks to be visually pleasing on the eye. The layout suggests that it would be quite easy to scan the book to find the particular subject area you are interested in. And indeed it is. Split into five parts, the book looks at the various areas to consider when giving business presentations or having to speak in public. The first part looks at the language of public speaking - how to keep your audience engaged and probably most importantly, awake! It then goes on to look at using visual aids, the power of words (and how you can convey a message but with a greater impact), and lastly but not least of all, the use of body language.

This book works on many levels. It can be used for those who are new to giving presentations as well as the more seasoned presenter who wants to make a bigger impact and polish up on their presenting skills. For that reason, it can be used for those trying to get their message across in the office or in the political arena.

If anxiety gets the better of you before your big moment forget all the myths you have heard about communication. Just remember a few of these truths:
  • Speaking is physically stressful that can cause a rise in blood pressure.
    .
  • Physical tension directly affects the parts of the body that affect the voice.
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  • Breathing is the best thing for good delivery - remember deep breaths beforehand.
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  • Most people speak too fast - if what you are saying sounds to you to be too slow, and if the pauses sound too long, you've probably got the right pace.
    .
  • And most importantly, don't drink alcohol before or during your speech! You may think it will steady your nerves but at best you won't have a clear head and at worst, if you have too much, you will slur your words and be incoherent.

Now all of this you may think is pretty obvious, but I find it to be very useful to have such good advice to hand to alleviate any fears you may have. As the author himself says, "Like any other activity involving knowledge and technique, effectiveness depends on practice, and the more you practice, the better you get."

If you have a book you would like to review or maybe you've written one, let us review it. newsletters@the-eci.org

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